For men, these days of ‘extended adolescence’ and casual cohabitation, not to mention the long process of career building and saving for a mortgage, has pushed the proposal further down the list of priorities. Are you rushing this because you feel insecure – and if so, where does this come from?
‘A lot of my friends are getting engaged, which is lovely, but the majority of them have been trying to twist their partner’s arm about it for at least a year; some have given ultimatums, which I personally wouldn’t be able to bear,’ writes one Mumsnet user.'It’s amazing how often clients say to me after a divorce or break-up, “When I look back on it now…” or “All my friends were saying…” I’d suggest taking yourself for a long walk and really examining your motives – and your relationship – before doing anything as drastic as issuing your partner with an ultimatum.’ Research in the UK and US suggests the great majority of men and women still see proposing as the man’s job – though in a leap year, such as this one, there is a tradition of women popping the question‘Something along the lines of, “You know I want to get married. Are you trying to railroad him into something you know he doesn’t want (in which case, you’ll both live with the consequences)?
I know you and your sisters got married in your teens because that was the correct thing to do back then and still is for most people.
Or if you can squeeze it into your schedule, after the kids are in bed, put away the tub toys and enjoy a bath together. " or "Hey, did you remember to call the accountant? There are a lot of things that I like about him; it's hard to put into words. Then my parents went to his place and met his parents, and they liked everything, so he flew from the U. Ankur: Because our entire families are there, so you are not really talking too much. Sandhya: First of all, we have to stop judging others. He is going to forgive me, and he's going to make mistakes and I will have to forgive him. Ankur: The compromises in marriage, they become effortless because … Sandhya: We will be more mature with each day and we will be a wiser person with each day, but that's going to happen with age.